Husband Searching for Porn

My husband enjoys searching for porn on the internet. Lately I've com across some of his personal ads that he has taken out in search of a discreet relationship for a lonely married man. I was very upset about this because I had always thought we had had a good marriage. Do you think he will eventually follow through with this or continue to search online or do you think he is just playing? He says he is happy in our marriage and I always thought he was, but this has really thrown me for a loop. Help!
Debbie

A. Regardless of whether he will follow through on his ad or not, you have a serious problem. The fact that he's looking at porn on the net is already regrettable let alone that he's advertising for sex!

I understand that a lot of these cyber activities are fantasy only and your husband probably only wrote that he was lonely so as to attract replies but still, you're going to have to lay down the law on this one. I am a very open-minded person - I have to be for counselling - but some things are simply not acceptable. Maybe your husband only said he was `playing' because he got caught. This goes to the heart of your marriage and the trust within it. If this continues, whether he's serious or not, it's going to damage your relationship. Tell him how serious this is to you and offer a compromise. If he must look at porn, he must at least discontniue the advertising.





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