Neuro Linguistic Programming

See me, hear me, touch me. Communication skills are the key to a relationship and now the latest technology can bring you closer to everlasting love.

Does your partner buy you flowers and gifts but can't tell you he love you? Is the fact that he or she rarely compliments your appearance or can't bear to hold your hand in public casting as shadow over your dreams of everlasting love?

If this sounds like your relationship then try NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming, the latest technology for improving communication skills.

People naturally fall into one of three sensual NLP wavelengths. - Visual (seeing) Auditory (hearing) or Kinaesthetic (touching, feeling) If you want to establish an unbreakable bond, you need to get to know your partner, and then copy their way of communicating.

Visual (Lookers)
These people like to look at and interpret information they see. They hate being read passage from book and prefer to see the words for themselves. They sit up straight, talk quickly and interrupt if they want you to understand what they need to know. They pay attention to how things look and are often unnerved by mess and clutter. They often say words like "See you" "Watch it" "I noticed" "It appears"

Auditory (Listeners)
These people react to sounds and words they hear. Typically, they love conversation and appear to listen intently, paying attention to detail and responding well to what is said. They often veer towards roles where they talk, explain and listen. When concentrating they find noise a distraction. They often move their lips when reading and listening to music.

They may say words like "I hear you" "Listen" "Let me tell you" "You can say that again."

Kinaesthetic (Touchers)
Generally highly tactile people they like to stand close and often reach out and touch without realizing they are. They may tap a should to get attention. Prone to moodiness and sometimes wearing their feeling on the outside. They talk with their hands a lot and like to feel involved. They use words like "That makes sense" "I know how you feel" "It was touch and go" "No hard feelings"

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Compare your Communication Style

See how you can communicate more effectively with your partner. Take it in turns as you answer the questions. Choose either a, b, or c and then add up your separate scores.

What would make you suspect that someone was lying to you?
a.) The way they look or avoid looking at you.
b.) Their tone of voice
c.) A feeling you get about their sincerity.

How would you know you had a good day at work.
a.) Your work space is clear or your "to do' list is complete
b.) You had a productive conversation
c.) An inner knowingness, a deep satisfaction with the day

What kind of holiday activity would you prefer?
a.) City sights, a tour, exploring
b.) Concerts, cultural lectures, natures sounds
c.) Beach, sun, sea, camping, nature

Which of these leisure activities would you choose:
a.) Movie, Video, photography
b.) Listening to music, singing, a taped book
c.) Sports, sculpture, cooking

Which TV program would you prefer to watch?
a.) Lessons in oil painting
b.) Who wants to be a millionaire
c.) Animal Hospital

What would you prefer for an anniversary treat?
a.) A weekend break away somewhere new
b.) A personal dedication on the radio
c.) Your partner cooking your favourite meal

How would you unwind?
a.) Gaze at something relaxing
b.) Talk to a friend
c.) Aromatherapy

If you babysat a friend's dog for the weekend, how would you like to be thanked?
a.) A card
b.) A phone call
c.) A gift voucher for a massage

Which of these jobs most appeals to you?
a.) Artist or designer in T.V.
b.) Lecturer, flight steward
c.) Gardner, counsellor

What do you like to have in your home?
a.) Lots of pictures , things to look at
b.) Wind chimes, music
c.) Pot Pourri, soft cushions

How you Scored:

Mostly A's mean you are a Visual person

Mostly B's means you are Audio

Mostly C's means you are kinaesthetic.

If your answers are evenly split, refer to the detailed analysis types to see which most closely matches your personality.

Both Visual: You both love photography, cinema, giving presents. Showing your love

Both Audio: You will have a shared love of music and conversation. There is a danger of talking at each other.

Both Kinaesthetic: Very physical relationship, but a danger of short tempers and hurt feelings.

One is Audio, the other Visual: Sweet words mean more than a bouquet to the Audio person and the Visual likes to see demonstrations of your love.

One is Kinaesthetic the other Visual : The Kinaesthetic person should do things for the other person to see -showing actions .And the Visual needs to be more touching and setting the atmosphere.

One is Kinaesthetic the other Audio: The Kinaesthetic needs hugs not terms of endearment, but the audio prefers to hear I love you rather than be caressed.

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NLP's not Magic It's how your Brain Works

Fortunately we live in a world that avails itself of the advantage of state of the art mind technology. We now have knowledge and insights into how we operate as humans and how we process and store information and the most important of all - how we can change behaviours and feelings that no longer serve us. The most dynamic of all these empowering techniques are in NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Here the emphasis is on creating the empowering changes you want with out conflict and opposition.

Most people believe that once we know better we do better.

NLP or Neuro-Linguistic Programming is a behavioural science that was developed in the 1970's by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. It is a powerful and explicit model of human experience and communication.

Neuro- (Greek, neuro for nerve) stands for the fundamental theory that all behaviour is the result of a persons neurological processes. Our experiences are processed from the 5 senses; Visual, (sight) Auditory, (hearing) Kinaesthetic, (feeling & touch) Olfactory, (smell) Gustatory (taste). These are fundamental that we learned about in primary school. Yet they form how we run our own nervous system.

Linguistics - (Latin for language) Indicates that neurological processes are represented, sequenced and ordered through language both verbal and non-verbal. Words, pictures, sounds, feelings are all part of the linguistic system.

Programming - refers to the process of organising the sensory representations to achieve specific results and outcomes. When we change the programming we change and experience lasting generative change.

Programming behaviours largely exist at the deep unconscious level. This means that sometimes we want to change but we don't necessarily change. Habits and patterns of behaviours exist at the unconscious level and are part of our programming.

The quality of our well being and our lives are a result of our unconscious programming. If you are happy with your quality then it is not necessary to make changes. However most people are now searching for ways to make changes, effectively, easily permanently.

NLP requires study and experience for effective use. Most personal development courses and coaching programmes now incorporate NLP in some of their practices. NLP is infiltrating all areas of work places and peoples lives. It is the most empowering recognized body of therapeutic techniques, that is used in so many ways.

Unfortunately, NLP in the hands of the unwise or undisciplined person can be misrepresented . Ultimately, NLP gives us tools to make changes for ourselves and to assist other people.

We envisage that NLP training will become second nature for parents and in schools that know the power of the mind and the advantages it brings. It is a tool and unless it is used with our hearts for a better quality and direction for our lives, it can be misunderstood.

The study of NLP is taught in an accelerated manner as this is the way the natural mind and brain work. We have generative thinking and in the right learning environment you can learn how to run your thinking and life harmoniously. To set examples for your children, family and work colleagues. To have the life you truly desire.

You can learn more about NLP and how the tools can help you in your business or life at www.aainlp.com.au or by contacting Laureli Blyth or Heidi Heron directly on 02 9264 4357.