The Trouble With Men

The Trouble With Men

How many hours have you spent wondering if he really likes you?
How long have you spent moaning to your friends that when you ask about his day, he just answers 'okay'? No more!

In The Trouble With Men, you'll find the answers to all your man-related problems. From dating to mating and beyond, this book covers tricky situations, awkward moments and communication strategies.

Whether you want to know how to meet men, or how to spice up a tired relationship, this book offers insight into what men are really thinking as well as practical solutions on how to get the outcome you desire.

Jason Michael is the author of the inspirational bestseller The Nitty-Gritty On Men and has conducted in-depth research by talking to couples and individuals who have managed to successfully maintain long and loving relationships. His books aim to help couples communicate more effectively and co-exist positively - as equal partners.

The Trouble With Men
New Holland Press
Author: Jason Michael
RRP: $24.95

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Interview with Jason Michael

Question: Why did you decide to write The Trouble With Men?

Jason Michael: What the book aims to do is explain how partners can communicate more effectively and co-exist positively in a relationship as equal partners. In it, you'll find the answers to all your man-related problems. From dating to mating and beyond, the book covers tricky situations, awkward moments and communication strategies. The book sheds light on common male behaviours and how to effectively respond to them. There's also useful advice on spotting the 'red flags' and knowing when to make a clean break if need be.

Question: What research went into The Trouble With Men?

Jason Michael: I have conducted years of extensive research, acquired from in-depth discussions with couples and individuals who have managed to maintain long and loving relationships. This research also included those who have experienced the pain of a divorce or break-up and managed to find effective ways to recover. This accumulated knowledge has enabled me to help individuals strive towards improved relations with the opposite sex and have a better understanding of their partner.


Question: How can we motivate the man in your life to pay more attention to us?

Jason Michael: If he isn't doing something that can make you happy, express your genuine needs and requests in a confident and loving way to your partner. Maintain honest and open communication with your man - a silent relationship is never a happy one. Acknowledging your partner with love instead of deflating their confidence and sense of worth is one of the most powerful relationship survival tools available to you. Pleasing your man and treating him with respect should also help influence him in wanting to do the same for you, making him look absolutely man-tastic in your eyes. Remember, a man who is truly smitten will make an effort to do what's necessary to ensure you're happy and help nourish the relationship so it thrives and survives.


Question: How important for you was it to add a touch of humour into The Trouble With Men?

Jason Michael: I wanted the book to not only be an insightful read but an entertaining one as well. The book is written in down-to-earth language, letting you all in on the secrets of the male psyche with humour but most importantly with honesty. The book gives the whole truth and nothing but the truth when it comes to relationship dramas!


Question: Are you able to advise what 'red flags' may arise in a relationship?

Jason Michael: Those uncomfortable silences where you suspect something is wrong and non-verbal behaviour towards you could be a signal that your man feels uncomfortable about something, possibly in the relationship. Ignoring the situation could prove to be disastrous down the track.

Something else to keep an eye out for is a deterioration of respect within the relationship. If he is prone to putting you down, criticising you, blaming you or not giving you his support, the relationship will not flourish. At first, these negative behaviours may occur occasionally. However, they can occur more frequently until it seems like you're constantly being bombarded. These types of relationships often evolve into physical violence if left too long.

If you and your partner can't discuss problems freely because you're worried about the consequences, it could be a sign of insecurity in the relationship. Being unable to honestly express your feelings to each other only increases the store of anger and resentment. A disagreement shouldn't necessarily mean that you both become defensive and prepare for battle. When that occurs it is impossible to maintain an open discussion with tact and decorum.

Spending more time apart- could be due to work commitments and busy lifestyles, however, it's important to make a real concerted effort to set aside some quality time with your partner i.e. doing anything that is romantic or brings joy to both of you!


Interview by Brooke Hunter