Conversations about sex and sexual identity are constant in our times: from the debate about gay marriage - including this month's vote in our federal parliament - to the intense discussions and disagreements about consumerism and commercialisation of sex. Yet one conversation that never takes place is that between a straight and a gay man. How do two men, one straight, one gay, see these issues? What are the different ways in which gay men are able to act out sexual desires compared to straight men? What do we mean by the word family? And what do we mean by equality?